Relationship Fears – H&S Love Affair
5 Common Relationship Fears That You Should Be Aware Of!
Whether you have been in a relationship or you are about to enter one, fear is one of those factors that can take a toll on you and your relationship. Fear in a relationship can exist in many forms, from being paranoid about your partner cheating on you, to fear of commitment just to name a few. Some of these could stem from early childhood experiences which could manifest due to abandonment or attachment issues, whilst others may be recurrent fear from a past relationship. Some fears are normal and last temporarily, whilst others can unconsciously ruin your relationships. It is, therefore, necessary to understand the fear so you can deal with it accordingly. Below are the top 5 fears that can be experienced in a relationship.
1. Fear Of Infidelity – There is a lot of fear and uncertainty based around infidelity, however, it is important to understand that just because your ex cheated on you, doesn’t necessarily mean that your current partner too, is a cheater. Yes, it is not an uncommon issue however before you jump to the conclusion and allow the fear to take over you and your relationship, it’s important also to understand that not everyone is a cheater. The best way to overcome this fear is to have an honest and open conversation with your partner about this and whilst doing so it is also important that after you get the reassurance you are looking for, you need to understand that not all partners cheat.
2. Fear Of Getting Pregnant, Starting A Family- This fear is real and a lot of parents will agree that this can cause a lot of unwanted stress in a relationship. It’s okay to fear that life after pregnancy will change as from 2 you have grown to 3 or more. This means you will need to factor in finance, put it more energy, time etc. You may also feel that you might not end up being a great parent, however, all these feelings are normal. To be more prepared and avoid the fear talk to your partner and plan if possible on how you both can help raise a child together. Also, remember the whole world does it and it’s not as hard as it seems. You, wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for your parents. So take it easy and don’t let this so-called fear dictate your life.
3. Fear Of Intimacy- This is another common fear whereby one fears opening up and getting to close as they may end up being rejected and/or hurt. This usually stems from childhood issues where a child may be unable to connect with his/her parents or even from a previous relationship where one may have been previously open and gotten hurt and betrayed. For this kind of fear, one firstly needs to address his/her issue of avoiding and should address this not just with themselves but with their partner to overcome the fear. Remember your past relationships should have no say in your current relationship. If you allow the past to govern your present, then you will not be able to move on in life and forever will have this fear irrespective of how your partner is.
4. Fear of Abandonment- The fear of losing the one you love is natural. This fear usually stems from self-insecurities, having no support or stability in the past relationship, and/or from a previous loss of a loved one. People with this kind of fear can be clingy or start fights just to get reassured which could end up destroying the relationship in the long run if the partner is not patient. The best solution to overcome this fear is to embrace it and be open with your partner and ask him/her to be patient as you work on your fear. It is also important to understand that self-insecurities and doubts can make you lose a potentially good relationship so don’t allow this fear to control your relationship.
5. Fear Of Commitment- Having one’s guard up at the beginning of a relationship is very normal especially when one has a fear of commitment. This is when you are just discovering things about your partner and learning to trust one another. However, for a relationship to develop you need to learn to trust and open up because if you don’t you may end a relationship before it can get serious. If the fear takes over and prevents one from committing to a partner then you may require assistance from a therapist to overcome this fear or you may end up being single and alone for the rest of your life.