When Love Hurts – Positive Reflection Of The Week

Soul Contracts

When Love Hurts Part 3: When It Hurts To Stay

Happy Valentine’s….

I hope you took this opportunity to shower yourself with some self-love.

Usually, Valentine’s isn’t such a big deal in my household. I take my mother on a date. We enjoy a lovely dinner, grab some desserts and enjoy the evening appreciating each other in our lives.

This year, it was different. I locked myself up in my room. Switched off my phone, and when things got
really bad in my mental space, I watched back to back episodes of “The Haunting of Hill House” on Netflix.

The next morning, I was hung over from suppressed thoughts and emotions. And I began to journal
about why, I felt the way I felt.

I’ve hated the word love. This word has been so overrated. Love between parents and children, siblings,
spouses, friends. Do we even know what LOVE is?

This was a huge question lingering over my head. And whenever I am caught in a relationship-situation
ship conundrum surrounding love, I love to (there is the word again) take myself to the verses of 1
Corinthians 13: 4- 8.

I mean, this year (and it’s only February) has brought to the fore so many hurtful and painful truths
about people whom I loved and who I thought loved me right back. But, I was wrong. They didn’t. And
while they betrayed me and broke my trust, the onus on how to respond to this whole situation lies on me.

I can either wage a war of hate and fury. Or once again, be thankful for the reminder that these events
have evoked inside of me – to stand true to Love.

There was a beautiful exercise I was once taught that revolved around these verses of the bible. If you
are caught in a similar situation, I want you to do this exercise. Read the verses as they are the first time around. And then, bring to mind every person who has betrayed you or hurt you, every nasty experience that brought you down, and now keeping these in mind, go through the verses again, but this time replace the word “Love” with your name. Trust me, by the time you are done, you will have experienced, even if it is ever so lightly, what Love REALLY is all about.

Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, Love does not boast, Love is not proud.
Love does not dishonour others, Love is not self-seeking, Love is not easily angered, Love keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Alia Datoo, Transformational Holistic Energy Coach