Manage Your Anger! – Positive Reflection Of The Week
Manage Your Anger: Anger & Its Side Effects
There’s a lot of literature out there telling you what to avoid doing when you’re angry, like being violent or making an important decision. But there are some additional aspects to this.
When in anger, lots of harmful acts have been performed, afterward the regret that follows at times cannot make up for the damage. Anger is an emotion that we all go through from time to time. Mostly, it is triggered by behavioural patterns we see from our loved ones, friends, or others. The main root cause, is having expectations of how we think a person should behave and should react. Now, this word ‘should’ is the cause of problems.
How can we handle our emotions?
Do not wish bad things to happen to the people you’re angry with.
What you wish to another, you bring onto yourself. It’s called the law of attraction or karma as many of us know it. Think about what you want to say and how? Lower your tone and be calm take some deep breaths before reacting to a situation you are not happy with, learn to listen. Try to see the other side of the story.
In addition, by the law of karma, you become entitled to receive that which you have sent out into the world. Is this worth it when you know you’re creating negative karma for yourself?
Don’t trash others with your anger, for example, if something happened at work, don’t bring that energy at home and release all the pent-up garbage onto your family. Or the way around, usually we release such to people who we feel are weaker than us. As we can never release anger at our boss, for example, as there’s respect and maybe a fear connected with that relationship. So it is better to clear the energy of negative emotions before heading home or to the office. How would we do that?
Let us give you some quick handy tips!
Deep breaths when you feel the energy of anger: Take a deep breath and exhale your negativity. Don’t let your anger get the best of you. Recollect your actions be aware of your thoughts and emotions, and ask why the incident made you angry? Start by asking yourself whether the problem is big enough to put all your energy into. Do you want to confront your significant other on cheating accusations? Definitely. Do you want to argue over why he or she watched the latest episode of Game of Thrones without you? You’ll probably want to, but is the silent treatment and screaming worth it, when you can watch the next one together? Is it worth yelling at the new intern because she put two packs of sugar in your coffee instead of three?
What triggered it? Then justify OK was this necessary, could I have reacted differently? In the future, can I be better at not allowing this to hurt me and others? Can I change my behaviour pattern? Such questions give you the ability to see within, and awareness creates peace. Relationships have been damaged in the past just because of a few angry words exchanged. The damage at times can cost a lifetime of grief.
“If you squeeze an orange, orange juice will come out.” – Wayne W. Dyer
What you give is what you will get, nothing more or less.
Feeling negative emotions may seem scary, especially if you’ve never been taught how to manage them. However, if you keep them hidden from your awareness in the subconscious mind, they will do everything in their power to come to the surface so that you acknowledge them. They will negatively impact your physical health, and they will attract circumstances that allow them to manifest. If you have anger in your system, this means you’ll attract things that “make you” angry.
You can use this affirmation for 60 days to make the process easier: “it’s safe for me to feel all my emotions, including anger”. ( Louise Hay)
If you’re looking for a safe way to let out anger, beating a pillow is an example. Just make sure you don’t use the pillow as a symbol for other people or yourself. It is OK to feel angry, it’s not OK to release it where it’s causing injury to you and others.
Self-master of understanding and tolerance is important for your inner health.
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By the way, liver failure, diabetes and other related issues with the liver are emotions connected to anger, did you know that? Anger is stored in the LIVER!
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha
“You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.” — Shannon L. Alder
“Getting angry in a stressful situation is like trying to clean something with dirt.” — Urbanky Aurel Petru
“Whoever is able to anger you is able to control you.” ― Lamine Pearlheart
Live a blessed and balanced life!
Shahwana Khanam – Pranic Healer