Broken Relationships By Alvira Diwan

Broken Relationships & What That Entails

I come across relationship issues very often. Every relationship that a human being has, be it with their parents, siblings, peers, partner or in a social setting is bound to have a rift at some part of their life. This is a vital part of life, but we tend to emphasize it much more than necessary. Of course, your relationship deserves importance but your heartbreak doesn’t. A broken relationship literally means that certain things are supposed to change for the betterment.

Be thankful for every heartbreak! People come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life. And you do!

The reasons could be vague, the situation might be unmanageable but the only thing that you have in control is yourself, your thoughts and your behaviour. Your reaction to the situation can change the situation completely. Being aggressive or keeping calm are the choices you have. Choose the latter over former to have a peaceful life.

You cannot compel anyone to stay, even if you do it would be worse than breaking up!

Mending a broken heart is never easy, you’ll need time but be sure to go through the process and not around it.

‌Detach yourself from the memories, be a ‘New’ you.
‌Be lively and comforting to people around you.
‌Fake happiness, until you start feeling happy naturally.
‌Forgive. You’ll only forget things and situations when you have forgiven the people involved.
‌Be hopeful of a better life ahead. Hope will give you an unknown strength.

Most importantly keep your doors open, be free to emotions and falling in love again. Life may give you similar situations but the experiences are always new.

Author Henri Nouwen writes, “When those you love deeply reject you, leave you or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful.”

Alvira Diwan
Masters in Clinical Psychology
PsychWorks Clinic