Anger – Positive Reflection Of The Week
Anger: A Negative Emotion
There’s a lot of literature out there telling you what to avoid doing when you’re angry, like being violent or making an important decision. But there are some additional aspects to this.
The first is to understand ‘why am I angry’? That’s an inner reflection technique that we can adopt. Decisions made in anger are usually the wrong ones, we have experienced it, and we need to learn from past mistakes. We may get angry at the people around us for things they say and the way they react, however, what’s making us fire up? Why would that conversation stir anger feelings and emotions? There’s a deep-seated emotion we have not dealt with, so here are a few tips to help us identify the reaction:
Is it worth losing my cool?
Does it matter?
If it does matter, what are the steps I can take?
What’s the outcome of my reaction?
When we start asking these questions internally, there comes clarity, with that said, the future incidents will be handled with more peace and harmony.
Don’t blame others for how you’re feeling.
You’re not feeling angry because someone did something, but because of the meaning you give to that action. This process is called self-awareness. When you start to have a negative emotion, shift your focus on what thought you created to make that emotion arise. Emotions are always caused by thoughts, whether conscious or subconscious. You are the creator of your thoughts. Take charge of your own emotions. If you feel overwhelmed, seek help. It could be a doctor or a Pranic Healer, or any modality that you’re comfortable with.
Don’t pretend you’re not feeling it.
Don’t shove it under the rug. If you do so, you’ll keep attracting people and situations which help it come out to the surface.
“If you squeeze an orange, orange juice will come out.” – Wayne W. Dyer
Feeling negative emotions may seem scary, especially if you’ve never been taught how to manage them. However, if you keep them hidden from your awareness in the subconscious mind, they will do everything in their power to come to the surface, so that you acknowledge them. They will negatively impact your physical health, and they will attract circumstances which allow them to manifest. If you have anger in your system, this means you’ll attract things that “make you” angry. You can use this affirmation for 60 days to make the process easier: “it’s safe for me to feel all my emotions, including anger”. If you’re looking for a safe way to let out anger, beating a pillow is an example. Just make sure you don’t use the pillow as a symbol for other people or yourself.
We have one or many of these points which can trigger us. If you have fears or challenges when it comes to dealing with anger, there are steps that can be taken to address and reduce the problem.
Don’t use your loved ones (spouse/ children) as garbage can for your negative emotions.
This means, don’t lash out at them or mistreat them when you can’t manage your negative emotions. This often happens, if that’s what you saw in your home growing up. If none of the partners use their discernment and continue engaging in this behaviour, in the long run it will destroy the relationship. If you’re used to or tempted to do this, just put yourself in the other person’s shoes. How does it feel to be on the receiving end of this treatment?
Is it fair?
Is it worth it?
Your emotions are your own to deal with. This is valid for everyone.
Also remember being angry most of the time attracts ailments in your body, like hypertension, heart ailments worse cases cancer too. From an energy point of view, it attracts bad luck as well.
So, let’s try our best to keep calm, and address issues with firmness where need be, without allowing anger to be the emotion portrayed outward.
“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle
“When anger rises, think of the consequences.” – Confucius
“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” – Laurence J. Peter
“When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.” – Epictetus
Shahwana Khanam – Pranic Healer