Validating Your Partner – H&S Love Affair

Importance Of Validating Your Partner!

Most of the time, all that is necessary in a relationship is ‘validation’. SO what does ‘validating your partner’ mean? Validation is simply the act of making someone feel heard and understood. It is by far the best gift you can give to your partner & the best thing you can do for your relationship. It’s about being present & listening to as well as understanding your partner’s thoughts, feelings and desires. Because frankly speaking sometimes all one needs is to be really heard! This can eliminate the need of arguments, as your partner’s fears and concerns are replaced with joy & happiness, making room for better communication; a vital tool for a healthy, successful relationship, something gifts and material things can’t buy! So How can you validate your partner?

Here Are 5 Key Components To Keep In Mind When Validating Your Partner:

1. Be A GOOD Attentive Listener- The first & important step requires ‘mindful listening’. This means you have to pay attention to what your partner is trying to tell you. Stay present and focus on what your partner is trying to tell you. You must drop whatever you are doing and react appropriately as they speak, so that your partner knows you are truly listening carefully.

2. Always Acknowledge- When you are acknowledging your partner it shows them that you care. Make sure you are acknowledging them appropriately by giving them a correct response to whatever it is they want to share with you. If it is some bad news like losing their job, for instance, let them know that you know that they’re upset with the news.

3. Validate DOES NOT Mean You Agree- Accepting your partner’s feelings doesn’t mean than you agree with them. You are allowed to have a different point of view from your partner but you can acknowledge their perspective. This makes you a good partner.

4. Always Ask- Your partner may share their problem with you and it’s important that you ask more about their feeling rather than the problem itself so they know you care. Asking your partner as you hear their problem out makes them know that you are there for them and want to be a part of their life.

5. Respond By Showing How You Feel- Let them know you understand how they feel. Whether it’s by nodding or giving them a hug or simply saying ‘I totally understand how you feel, because I’d feel the same too’. This way your partner knows and believes you are present and are with them as they experience whatever it is they are in that moment.

Now that you have learnt how to validate your partner whether it’s their dream, feeling, concern or experience. Try it & see the difference it makes in your relationship!