The Power Of Patience – Positive Reflection Of The Week

The Power Of Patience: Patience Is A Virtue – Written by Shahwana Khanam

Patience is a virtue. As we have been told, do we really follow the principles?

As we are driving through traffic, especially if we live in big cities, already we can see how patience runs out, instead of creating a flow, because of lack of patience we are creating a traffic jam which could have been easily avoided, if we were patient with the car ahead for just a minute.

We notice parents, children, teachers daily losing patience because things are not happening the way they want it to, so instead, they lose that calm. Is it possible to change such an attitude? Yes… if you are willing to accept first that you lack patience, but No… if you go on daily living without awareness of that change. You see human nature is to blame the second person always, it’s never our fault but always the fault of another.

Cultivating change especially in behaviour takes courage before that awareness. Because of the busy living of today, we are unaware of both.

Patience is essential to daily life—and might be the key to a happy one. Having patience means being able to wait calmly in the face of frustration or adversity, so anywhere there is frustration or adversity—i.e., nearly everywhere—we have the opportunity to practice it, be it at home with our kids, at work with our colleagues, at the grocery store with half our city’s population! Patience can make the difference between annoyance and equanimity, between worry and tranquillity.

Religions and philosophers have long praised the virtue of patience; now researchers are starting to do so as well. Recent studies have found that, sure enough, good things really do come to those who wait. Some of these science-backed benefits are detailed below, along with three ways to cultivate more patience in your life.

In relationships with others, patience becomes a form of kindness. Think of the best friend who comforts you night after night over the heartache that just won’t go away or the grandchild who smiles through the story she has heard her grandfather tell countless times. Indeed, research suggests that patient people tend to be more cooperative, more empathic, more equitable and more forgiving. “Patience involves emphatically assuming some personal discomfort to alleviate the suffering of those around us,” write Debra R. Comer and Leslie E. Sekerka in their 2014 study.

Patience is the state of being that occurs between experience and reaction. Whether you’re trying to be patient with yourself, others or life, it seems to always involve the experience of dealing with delays or obstacles.

By cultivating a practice of patience, you’re able to let go of things outside your control and live with less stress, anxiety, and frustration. – Deepak Chopra

Study on patience is still new, but there’s some emerging evidence that it might even be good for our health. In their 2007 study, Schnitker and Emmons found that patient people were less likely to report health problems like headaches, acne flair-ups, ulcers, diarrhoea and pneumonia. Other research has found that people who exhibit impatience and irritability—a characteristic of the Type A personality—tend to have more health complaints and worse sleep. If patience can reduce our daily stress, it’s reasonable to speculate that it could also protect us against stress’s damaging health effects.

Some tips:-

• Learn to be calm, what’s in your control try and change it, what’s not in your control, be mindful about it and ask ‘what can I do about it? What’s the solution?’ Sit back and sip a cup of coffee.
• Practice deep breathing to learn how to calm the mind, relax, take walks, enjoy the moment now! It’s not guaranteed that there will be a ‘next moment’!
• Be patient with yourself! Rome was not built in a day or was it?
• Try to be understanding towards others, your skills and development are not the same as everyone’s. Do not limit others by their slow way of doing things, perhaps they are wired that way, perhaps they need some training. Be the helping hand.
• Remember no one is perfect, everyone is in the progress.

Some Famous Quotes On Patience:

“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.”

“One minute of patience, ten years of peace.”

“With love and patience, nothing is impossible.”

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”

And lastly remember, the two most powerful warriors are Patience & Time. You get a chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it!

Shahwana Khanam – Pranic Healer