Pleasing Your Partner At The Cost Of Yourself! – By Alvira Diwan

Pleasing Your Partner At The Cost Of Yourself – Acknowledge Your ‘Self Worth’ & Make It Known. – Written By Alvira Diwan

Every relationship has a dominant and submissive partner respectively. The dominant one is often hard to please. They criticize almost everything their partner does. Making them happy is an actual task. Every thought or action is followed by their intense reaction. The result, their partner tries everything possible to make them happy or satisfied. Doing things that they would have never done for anyone ever. Letting go of their likes and dislikes just to see a look of acceptance on their face.

This is the worst thing one could do in a relationship. Letting go of one’s true self identity and adapting a new one as per the partner’s preference. This would never be the solution of making your relationship work. You entered in the relationship as the person you’ve been all your life. Changing yourself for someone just for the sake of making them happy will make you miserable in the long run.

Pretending to be someone that you are not is a betrayal to yourself first and than your partner. You cannot go on to pretend forever, at some point of life you’ll yearn for to be your old self.

A relationship can build with both the partners working together for it. “The idea is be happy as individuals and happiest as a couple.”

• Be realistic in your approach of managing your relations.
• Don’t make commitments which you may or may not fulfill.
• Have a clarity about being in the relationship and it’s responsibilities.
• Make sure that the efforts are mutual.
• Discuss your expectations.
• Try to give things a thought before denying it curtly.

Communication is the only key to avoiding problems in a relationship. Make sure that you communicate well with your partner instead of giving them hints.

A relationship is supposed to make you grow as a better person. You will be able to build a strong relationship only when you’re an individual who knows the value of self worth.

Take care of your Self Respect to carry your Relationship with Dignity.

 

Alvira Diwan
Masters in Clinical Psychology
PsychWorks Clinic

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