Friendship – Positive Reflection Of The Week

Pauline’s Message: ‘Let’s All Embrace True & Genuine Friendship’

I grew up with an introvert mother whom I never saw attending parties, having parties at home or even having a lot of women friends coming over to see her. My mother was and is still the most resilient, hardworking and loving woman I know. Her genuineness is what made us who we are today.

She had one friend, a woman we knew from the time we were little to this day, she is like our second mama. It’s no doubt that theirs is a friendship beyond any barriers and just like my mother she is an introvert too. I don’t know if this is what keeps them together to date, but I always knew there is something beyond being an introvert that has kept them together and that I believe is being genuine and authentic in life.

One of the best lessons I have learnt from my mother is genuineness, love and authenticity. One day in our mother-daughter chats, she talked to me about the beauty of friendship being forgiveness, love and genuineness.

I am learning that friendship is an investment. Unlike my mother I am an extrovert, I love associating with people & I love crowds. But what I treasure most in genuine friendship is that being real will never allow you to watch your friends doing wrong so that you can laugh at them or celebrate their failures.

Friendship requires more than just love. It needs patience, authenticity and understanding one another. You don’t get into a friendship to look for another person’s weakness or mistake so that you can attack them, rather you need to look into the other person’s mistake to help them change and grow.

It’s often said “No man is an island, No man stands alone” but again having the wrong company can be the worst. When you enter into friendship be ready to learn about the other person’s mistakes, strengths, weaknesses and their likes and dislikes. It’s not all about the beautiful memories but mostly about growth.

True friends will fight with you, disagree with you but at the end of it, communication is the key to helping friends grow. Love in friendship is tested through disagreement and remember love is kindness, love is not self-seeking, love is genuine and the strongest force in the universe.

Let’s all embrace true and genuine friendship.

Pauline Juma, Age 25, Founder of ‘Rebirth Of A Queen’