Pain & Growth: What Doesn't Kill Me, Makes Me Stronger! What doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger! There is suffering in life. “Loss” can mean different things to different people at different stages of their lives. A young person may grieve a romantic breakup, whereas an elderly person may be devastated by the untimely passing of their child. While there isn’t a single person who can claim to have a life without any misery, a few, stand apart.