6 Signs: The Certainty You're Being Used In A Relationship! A successful relationship is all about "give & take"! An unhealthy relationship, on the other hand, is when one partner tends to use the other. At times this may be unintentional however being used is definitely not a great feeling and it can be detrimental to your relationship in the long run! So the question is then how to spot a user & what it is that can be done to address the issues?